All posts tagged: Love

The Decibels of Love

I (now) believe: Love is measured on a scale of magnitude, and that it is possible to love more than one person at the same time. Because every relationship – every encounter – is different. I believe you can love two people just as much, maybe even three, without your emotions for one devaluing your feelings for another, or making those seem any less real. Because what you experience with one person, the wealth and accumulation of all those little moments, may be a completely different experience from what you have with somebody else. I believe people fulfil you in different ways, open up different parts of you, make you aware of yourself – or all the different versions of your “self”. And sometimes it takes more than one person for you to realise that. I believe, so long as you love and you feel with the same amount of intensity and sincerity, it is completely possible to love many people at the same time. Love is love is love. Either it is there or …

“But I love him/her so much!” – “Really? I think that’s bullshit.”

What I said was: I believe the best relationships are the ones where the two people involved treat each other as friends first, and lovers after. Why? Because don’t you find that when it comes down to our friends, we are so much more patient, so much more kind, so much more understanding… and forgiving? If our friend doesn’t pick up the phone, or call us back right away – do we batt an eyelid, throw a tantrum or give them the cold shoulder? No, not really. Unless, of course, there really is reason to and we have a genuine cause for concern (e.g. late night last night, a little inebriated, “just want to make sure she’s okay”). But even then we’d probably be worrying instead of accusing. When it comes to partners however, for some reason, we start to act a little selfish. Why is that? I think it’s because when we’re in a relationship, it really all comes down to fear. And an excessive amount of expectation placed on the other person to …

Day 365: 365 days of appreciation… and Love.

365 days of appreciation… Status: Complete. Feeling: Well… How to put into words? I am… incredibly, tremendously Grateful. I have had a lot of time to think about this day. I just can’t believe it’s finally here. Every day, for the last 365 – that’s Three hundred and sixty-five – I have counted down to this day. I have counted down to this day because that was the time limit I set myself. 365 days of appreciation. 365 ways to heal a broken heart. When I started this blog 1 year ago, I was in a very dark and scary place. The 24th of July was a heavy day for me. It was the day I said goodbye to my grandfather. And it was also the day I lost the most important person in my life. You could say it was a double whammy. And the closest thing I can relate it to is perhaps that sickening, heart-dropping, head-piercing feeling you get when you trip up and fall over. Except imagine that once you get …

Day 352: Being put to the test, Sue chat, Kan chat, Kat chat… and a little bit of Bon Iver!

Sri Dharma once said that in many ways, New York – or any big city for that matter – is the best place to learn yoga. Why? Because it’s so much easier to focus, lead a good life, keep clean, resist temptation when you are living in an ashram in the middle of nowhere. It’s when you go back to city life or the ‘real world’ that you are truly put to the test. How long, how much, can you maintain your focus? How solid is your conviction? More and more I believe the greatest test… is how to stay focused on the truth when your biggest fear and distraction is staring you in the face… “Be the bigger person,” it whispered, “And remember that home is inside your heart.” – Thanks. I’m grateful I stayed silent enough to hear this today. / Sue chat. Kan chat. Kat chat. – what a tongue twister. lol. thanks guys. miss and love you loads! / This.

Day 351: Frannie’s letter, Le Pain Quotidien, The Shard, Ryan O’Shaughnessy’s first music video, Meeting Sam for the 3rd time in the last year and A lesson on Trust…

Dear Frannie, Thank you for your message this morning. Wasn’t expecting that but really, really appreciate it. My thoughts, too, are with you. With love, and hugs. – krissa x / Today, I got to meet Sam for the THIRD time in the last year. How crazy is that! Haha. And then again at Christmas. Wehey, we’re on a roll! =) / Le Pain Quotidien – I just love it! Especially the new branch they opened up next to Borough Market. Perfect place for weekend brunch and catching up with old friends =) / Dear big glass shard sticking out of London Bridge, I have watched you grow and grow and grow over the last 3 years. And I feel like you, too, have watched my life unravel and unfold, under your keen guardianship, over the last 36 months. You were there at the very beginning, one evening in May. And now you are here at the end. Funny huh? Many people look at you and have various opinions. Some people think you are great, …

Day 350: 15 more days of appreciation, Borough Market, The Tate Modern Turbine Hall, The final catharsis and The BSO Reunion…

15 more days of appreciation. I didn’t even realise… Grateful! / Borough Market – I always loved this place. Grateful for the reminder. / The Tate Modern Turbine Hall… – this space always serves its purpose. Today was no different. And so, grateful! / July 7, 2012. Today, the final catharsis. Now you are free. Say thank you. Be grateful… Now let it go and be on your way. And with that, grant yourself peace. / Thank you Saskia for holding my attention for an hour and keeping me present in that space. Present, is exactly where I needed to be. / Grateful for the opportunity to see the girls tonight and get to know Nona a bit better. / Can’t believe the Glad has a new rooftop deck! Just goes to show how long we haven’t been back… It was nice to see. And I’m almost glad for the visual reinforcement of how much things have moved on and changed in the last year. At least, I thought, there were flowers. / Love from …

Day 345: Camden Parkway… and My handstand workshop with an ex-professional acrobat… from Mongolia… in a church!

Today, I went to a handstand workshop… with an ex-professional Acrobat… from Mongolia… in a church… … … I don’t think you can get any more random than that! It was a killer. But the conditioning was great! Thanks Sainna! And thanks for the head’s up, Maria. If this doesn’t do it, I don’t know what will! =p / Tonight, this street provided the canvas I needed to step into a world that used to be mine. For a few hours, I indulged a younger version of myself. It was nice. It was what it was. Nothing more. Nothing less. And for that I am grateful. / This screenshot of my crazy familia made me smile today. And was a nice reminder of the people and things that matter. I love you! xxx

Day 325: Bubbleology, The moment Calvin Harris and Example collaborate together, Plamil organic chocolate, Drops of Jupiter and The Fortune-Telling Book of Names…

Calvin Harris + Example = Catchy new track called ‘We’ll be coming back‘ = More good times ahead = Grateful! / Plamil organic orange chocolate with cranberries, 60% cocoa… Grateful. YUM! Thanks Louis! / Bubbleology – a little piece of home =) Cute set-up, yummy drinks… Aunty, Uncle, Kat – thanks for the invite. We gotta get us some Assam tea to take home! / Drops of Jupiter – not quite 5 hours, but close enough. And I am, truly grateful. / Grateful for the moment this passage was read out to me, alongside another equally intriguing. Call it irony, coincidence, serendipity or fate… Call it nothing. Call it everything. Either way, I’m grateful. / Thank you for putting a smile on my heart, and on my face. 3 weeks + 1, 476 days ago, I probably would have said the same thing. x

Day 309: Hanging with Sue in the park, The Warrant Song and My beautiful, new, dimply white buddha!

Today, I got to hang out with Sue in the park after her very very long absence! Hurray! Grateful =) / Sun Day = Play Day! =D / “Warrant” by Foster the People = soundtrack of the weekend. Grateful! / Today my future planning got stood up twice. Not the best case scenario… but it did get me out onto the roof to do some of my own homework, playing a bit of FTP, appreciating the smell of the BBQs wafting up from the next-door gardens below on my left, and the sound of birds chirping and some sort of African drums beating on my right.  / Today, my beautiful white buddha arrived, all dimple-cheeked and smiling =) Thank you, momma! And thank you, Aunty Janice, for bringing this over! =) This puts a smile on my face, every day =) I think every work desk should have one! / May 27th, I doubt a year will ever pass where I do not stop and acknowledge the significance you have had in my life. Come what …

Day 301: 300 days of appreciation, Finishing my first 6-week teaching course, Having my class observed by Mark, The Dictator and Adele, Live at the Royal Albert Hall…

300 days of appreciation. And not a single bad day in between… / My colleague asked me the other day if gratitude really works, and if I can honestly say I haven’t had a bad day in the last 200++. To which I responded, “You will never have a bad day, if you can be grateful for at least one thing that happened. Because just that one thing, would have given your day purpose.” I truly believe this. And I am grateful it’s something I learned sooner rather than later. / Today, I taught my 6th yoga class, which was technically the end of my first 6-week teaching course. So far, I have taught 10 people in total, with an average of 4-5 per class. 4 of those were men. 2 of which were brand new to yoga. 1 of those men bought a mat from me. And the other just signed up to a 10-day, unlimited, special induction package at Indaba. Every Saturday morning, my students come to class. They lay their mats and they …